After Channel 4 airing new documentary, “Sex, Lies & Rinsing Guys”, rumours are that there is now going to be a whole reality series devoted to the subject of the ladies’ “rinser” lifestyles.
I watched the programme last week on Catch Up, and I have to say, I still don’t really know where I stand on the whole thing.
On the one hand, these girls ARE showing some sense of initiative (I suppose) and some how making their own way. But then again, its all paid for ultimately, somewhere down the line, by these poor sods who would seemingly rather spend thousands of pounds on merely talking to an attractive woman, than perhaps visiting Plentyoffish.com to find someone normal, who might EVEN want to appreciate him for the person he is, and not his wallet.
In a way, this occupation and way of life these women lead both contradicts and supports ideas of feminism, which I suppose is the bit that baffles me the most, because:
A) These women are being empowered by having such mental control over these men (and really benefiting financially/ materialistically)
BUT
B) These women are being lowered in standards by having to use a man to earn their way in life and make money.
Its tricky. I get to a point where I almost feel sorry for these men, but then I do think, they can’t be that stupid and naive. They know what’s going on. And it also makes me wonder furthermore about the men themselves… surely if they pay thousands to simply have a conversation with a woman whom they might never have even met in person, they must be paying equal, if not larger sums, to sleep with another. Right? Unless of course, they are actually married, or very, very old.
All of this, is my catch 22. My opinion-forming predicament.
What I really didn’t like though for sure, are some of things the girls said. Danica for example, mentioning something along the lines of how she felt exploited, when essentially she’s doing the same thing to men, or Holly Henderson claiming “My family grew up with nothing and I’m just trying to make something of myself. I’m no scrounger.” Well, hate to break that part to you love, but you are pretty much taking things from someone without paying for them in money, that is kind of on some level either scrounging or theft. Or manipulation. Which ever. Plus, I know one of them is doing a degree, but big deal, I’m doing a degree, along with millions of others in the UK, and we don’t all feel the need to use it as an excuse to justify other parts of our lives.
Saying all of this, I really think the hatred which has been pushed the rinsers’ way by the public is far too extreme. I just hope that one day, they will give up their rinser lifestyles, and make their own money- completely- not through a “personal website” where some pervy old fart will give up £50 to watch you horse ride- I’m talking helping others, being inventive, creating a product or a service or doing something that requires you to think a bit harder than what it is you’re going to tweet next, or which part of your body you’re going to photograph.
If not, no matter how hard these women try, they’ll never have that pleasure of owning or buying something that they’ve earn by themselves. And what will happen when these men get bored, die or get married. What happens when they don’t look so pretty? Will they still want to be doing this when they’re 50?
So many questions.
In the mean time though, I’m sure they will go on to milk this new found fame for every drop. And no matter how hard I try, I will no doubt be watching the reality TV show when it’s out. Will you be watching?
